For Report Cards!
Well, and Thanksgiving for my American friends. Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Enjoy your turkey and love your families. :)
But around here, 'tis the season of the report card. The Princess brought home her report on Monday, and she's doing well. No A's and B's at this level, rather they're graded SP (Strong Performance), AD (Appropriate Development), or ED (Experiencing Difficulty) on the Academic criteria, and there's a separate section for Personal Behaviours and Work Habits where you score VG (Very Good), S (Satisfactory), or NI (Needs Improvement).
She's young enough that she doesn't care; didn't even know it was report card day. I did tell her that her teacher likes her very much and that she's doing well, she just needs to listen more carefully to instructions. Which is true, and made her glow with achievement.
Except I wasn't glowing.
She's reported as being average, across the board. But she's exceptional, my heart protests. Can't you see how exceptional she is? Is this a failing all parents have? This need for everyone around them to see how wonderful THEIR children are? Isn't that why so many bloggers are parents who fill the internet with stories about their kids?
On the other hand, I do have deep-seated personal school issues. I was a desperate overachiever. A's were ok. B's got me upset to the point where I didn't eat for a couple of days and was prone to tears. That C I usually got in gym (I'm an uncoordinated klutz with no spatial perception--gym was my personal pergatory) sent me into fits of dispair. So my daughter brings home a report card that's basically B's (with that one pesky C in listening skills) and I die a little bit inside. What aren't we doing? What can we work on? How do I fix this? I don't want her to have the same OMG I'M GOING TO DIE report card issues that I had (apparently still have), but I want her to be her best, and can't help feeling that her best is better than this. Where do you find the balance? I guess I should be thankful that she's not exceptional at the other end of the scale, that she IS a perfectly normal and average 1st grader with no particular problems grasping the material or behaviour expected of her. I AM thankful, I'm just greedy too.
To get away from my neuroses a minute, her report card was so HER. Grades aside, the comments section had me chuckling out loud a couple of times. Her teacher has SO got her pegged. In a class of eleven students (I KNOW, isn't that awesome) she gets a lot of one-on-one time with each student and she really, really understands my daughter. When I go to Parent/Teacher interviews tonight, I know that we'll be totally on the same page and I won't have to waste any time explaining the Princess' many quirks to her. Which brings me to my final question--do you bring your child to Parent/Teacher Interviews? My parents never did, and it just about killed me. I KNEW they were talking about me, judging me, planning my future, but they would never tell me what was said. Being the worrier I am, I naturally came up with all kinds of horrible things that I was SURE had happened. I determined way back when that MY kids would come to interviews and KNOW what we really thought of them. I didn't take the Princess last year because she was only in kindergarten and I wasn't sure she could sit still and not hop around the classroom. I did notice that lots of parents DID bring their children in for interviews though. So do I start this year? Can she handle it? Will she even care yet?
If you're out there taking a break from your turkey, feel free to tell me :)